100 Things I’ve Learned from Living, Loving, and Side-Eyeing People

Life has taught me a lot. Some of it was sweet, some of it was messy, and a lot of it came while pretending to nod politely while secretly thinking, “You really said that out loud?”

From awkward brunches to questionable exes, from fake friends to fabulous self-realizations, here are 100 things I’ve learned while living, loving, and quietly judging—er, observing—people like the classy, emotionally-evolved queen I am.

LIFE (The Real-Deal, Unfiltered Edition)

1. If it feels off, it probably is. Trust your gut—she’s nosy but rarely wrong.
2. Energy never lies, but people sure do.
3. You don’t need closure. You need distance and a snack.
4. Being nice and being a pushover are not the same thing.
5. Silence is a response—and sometimes the loudest one.
6. Nobody is really paying that much attention. Be weird.
7. If they gossip to you, they’ll gossip about you.
8. Time doesn’t heal everything, but it makes the memory blurry enough to live with.
9. Therapy works. So does blocking people.
10. Always have “go-to” joy things—music, food, memes, whatever brings you back to you.

LOVE (A.K.A. The Free Emotional Rollercoaster)

11. You can’t fix someone who doesn’t see themselves as broken.
12. The bare minimum should not impress you.
13. If he wanted to, he would. And if he did and still sucked, he shouldn’t have.
14. Red flags do not become decorative over time.
15. Love is not a reward for suffering.
16. “Mixed signals” is code for “not that into you.”
17. You deserve butterflies without stomach ulcers.
18. Some people are only good in theory—like bell bottom jeans.
19. Don’t wait for someone to choose you. Choose yourself, then go get tacos.
20. Love doesn’t have to be loud. But it should always be kind.

SIDE-EYE LESSONS (Because People Be People-ing)

21. Everyone’s not your friend—some folks are just good at networking.
22. If they start every sentence with “No offense,” prepare for offense.
23. Watch how people treat waitstaff. It reveals everything.
24. Some people only support you when you’re beneath them.
25. “I’m just being honest” is often code for “I’m rude and unfiltered.”
26. Not every invite is meant for you. And that’s okay.
27. Some people really be fighting invisible battles… with you.
28. The louder they brag, the more insecure they are.
29. You don’t need to prove someone wrong. Just let life do it for you.
30. Everyone’s main character moment is someone else’s “skip to next episode.”

SASSY WISDOM FROM THE BACK ROW

31. You can love people and still keep your boundaries air-tight.
32. “I don’t accept that” is a full sentence.
33. Matching vibes > matching outfits.
34. Being unbothered is a form of self-care.
35. If they talk over you, interrupt them—politely but firmly.
36. Saying “no” without explanation is delicious.
37. Nobody has their life together. Some just have better filters.
38. Be kind. But also be witty, watchful, and unavailable to drama.
39. Taking the high road doesn’t mean you can’t throw a wink and a little shade.
40. People who call you “too much” are just not enough.

GLIMMERS OF GOODNESS

41. Some people will surprise you—in the best ways.
42. A small, loyal circle is more valuable than a loud crowd.
43. Vulnerability is scary, but it’s also how you find your people.
44. Everyone is dealing with something invisible. Lead with grace.
45. Real love won’t compete with your self-worth.
46. It’s okay to outgrow people who used to be your everything.
47. Choose laughter, even when you want to scream.
48. You can start over whenever you want.
49. Your story isn’t over—just dramatically pausing.
50. Life is long. So keep evolving, and keep your receipts.

THE JUICY MIDDLE 50 (Quickfire Style)

51. Just because it’s familiar doesn’t mean it’s good for you.
52. Beware of people who never apologize.
53. A shared playlist is practically a love language.
54. If your presence makes people uncomfortable for being real, that’s their problem.
55. Tread lightly around folks who overshare and undersupport.
56. Matching energy is sometimes petty—sometimes powerful.
57. Let people misunderstand you. You don’t have time to write a thesis.
58. Social media is a highlight reel. Don’t compare it to your behind-the-scenes.
59. Being left out isn’t always rejection—it’s protection.
60. What they post ≠ who they are.
61. Not everyone deserves access to you.
62. Repeating yourself for adults is exhausting. Just stop.
63. Loyalty to yourself comes first.
64. You’re not intimidating—they’re intimidated.
65. Some people love you better at a distance.
66. Peace is more attractive than chaos.
67. Real friends hype you up and hold you accountable.
68. Being liked is cool. Being respected is better.
69. You don’t have to explain your healing.
70. Saying less is often the power move.
71. Your worth isn’t based on how useful you are to others.
72. A good outfit fixes a bad mood 87% of the time.
73. People can change—but don’t bet on it.
74. Jealousy wears many disguises. Stay alert.
75. Some exes should stay exactly where you left them: in the archives.
76. Romanticizing your life works better than complaining about it.
77. Some friendships have expiration dates.
78. You don’t owe anyone a version of yourself that’s easy to swallow.
79. Joy is a choice—and a rebellion.
80. Mood swings? No. It’s called range.
81. A day in bed is sometimes the best productivity.
82. High maintenance emotionally = someone who actually feels.
83. If they flinch at your standards, they were never planning to meet them.
84. “I’ll think about it” is a soft no, and we all know it.
85. Growth looks like not clapping back—even when you could.
86. The group chat knows everything. Proceed accordingly.
87. You’re not hard to love. They were just lazy.
88. Stop shrinking to fit into shallow spaces.
89. Being misunderstood is part of being powerful.
90. It’s not an attitude. It’s a boundary with a little lip gloss.

WRAPPING IT UP WITH LOVE & SPICE

91. Your story is valid—even the chapters you don’t share.
92. Take pictures. Wear the outfit. Romanticize the Target run (but on a Walmart budget).
93. You don’t have to be “the strong one” all the time.
94. Some days, surviving is the accomplishment.
95. You’re allowed to walk away, even without closure.
96. Resting is not quitting.
97. Love people. But protect your peace like it’s a Louis Vuitton.
98. Stop asking for permission to be fully yourself.
99. The best revenge? Peace, success, and glowy skin.
100. Life is messy and magical. So keep showing up, looking cute, and giving side-eyes when necessary.

In conclusion, my loves:
People will people. Lessons will lesson. And you? You’ll keep growing, glowing, and posting things like this so the messy ones know you’re watching… with style.